A Blog by Marie Madison for Rog’s Reviews
And now I'm sharing this one also for those of you
who may have not seen it.
I read a lot of Porn Industry Blogs, and I follow quite a few ‘Porn Fan’ Message Boards, and a common complaint among the threads is how difficult it is to get in touch
with Porn Stars. Or more specifically, why so many Porn Stars don’t reply to e-mail and don’t respond to messages.
So, in this crazy age of Social Networking, where we are ‘Friends With’, ‘Connected To’ and ‘Following’ damn near everyone… why is it so hard to get a Porn Star to answer you back?
Now, I’m far from what most people would consider a ‘Porn Star’, but I do get my fair share of e-mail and messages. Sometimes hundreds a day. I answer a lot of them, but the vast majority I simply delete. Because I don’t take them seriously enough to take the time to answer.
To be fair, a lot of Porn Stars don’t run their own Social Networks, so you might have to do a little research to find the best way to connect with them, but here are a few things you can do to increase your chances of a response.
1. KNOW WHO YOU ARE TALKING TO
Before you fire off a message, take a minute or two to actually read the web page you are messaging from. If it’s a site like
MySpace or Facebook, read the profile. It’ll give you a sense if that page is run by the Porn Star, or if it’s run by the Company the Porn Star works for. This idea seems basic to me, but yet a couple times a month, my Lawyer forwards me fan mail from someone who sent it from the USC 18 page on my web site. It’s not smart to assume everyone’s Lawyer will do that.
2. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
While we all enjoy the work involved in creating the fantasy world we all play in week to week, for the vast majority of us, it’s still our job. Like you, we exist in the real world, in a tough economy, and all have the same basic bills.
To put a finer point on it, Web Cam Shows make our car payments. So, if you find me in a Chat Room and ask me to ‘Show me your tits’ on my Webcam… well, no offense, but that’s sort of where my pay check comes from.
Imagine if you were a successful auto mechanic who built his business from a real love of cars. Then someone comes up to you one day, because he recognized you from your television commercial and says “Hey, can you put a new transmission in my car real quick?” Asking me for a ‘Free Membership’, or a ‘Free Download’, or a ‘Free’ anything, is sort of the same thing.
And while we’re here, it’s never smart to assume that Porn Stars are also Prostitutes. Two completely different Professions. I shouldn’t have to say more.
3. DON’T MESSAGE SOMETHING YOU WOULDN’T SAY IN PERSON
True Story. A couple years ago, I was at a Film Festival promoting a ‘Mainstream’ Film, and a guy came up to me out of nowhere and said “Can I fuck you in the ass?” Two dudes from behind me grabbed him and tossed him out into the parking lot.
So here’s a good rule of thumb. If you wouldn’t say it to her face in public, don’t send it in a Message. This applies to pictures of your Penis. If you aren’t the kind of guy who would whip it out in the middle of a bar to ‘show me’, then don’t e-mail me a picture of your Cock
. If you are that kind of guy… then well, fire away. But know it’s going to get deleted. 4. DON’T BE A STALKER
Asking me for my cell phone number or telling me what Gym I work out at is more creepy than charming. Also, being a ‘Historian’ is a bit of a grey area. Reminding me of every Anal Scene I’ve ever done is flattering to a point, but it can come off as being a little weird too. So, be careful with that.
5. USE COMMON COURTESY & SHOW SOME RESPECT
Again, seems like the basics to me, but you wouldn’t believe some of the stuff that comes thru. Just like in ‘Real Life’, if you talk to me like a person, with courtesy and some respect, I’m much more inclined to answer your question, or take a few minutes to chat.
Of course, there’s no guarantee that your favorite Porn Star is going to respond to you, but taking a few minutes to think it thru will greatly increase your chances. If you want to test it out, follow the rules, and write me at marie@mariemadison.com
- Maddy
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